Road Trip reveals

Lessons learned from coast-to-coast

By Monesha Jemia Carter, shades Magazine contributor

I recently completed a monumental journey that took me from Maryland all the way to sunny California … which will always be Home. This road trip was an incredible adventure filled with breathtaking sights, unexpected detours and valuable life lessons.  

As I reflect on this incredible experience, I wanted to share with you the top ten lessons I learned along the way:

1️⃣ Lesson #1: You are stronger than you know. The open road taught me that I possess an inner strength that can conquer any challenge.  

2️⃣ Lesson #2: Weather the storm, it will pass. Just like weather patterns, life’s difficulties are temporary. Embrace the storm and know that brighter days lie ahead.  

3️⃣ Lesson #3: Stay in your lane – for the most part. It’s essential to stay focused on your own path and goals, but don’t be afraid to explore different lanes and embrace new opportunities.  

4️⃣ Lesson #4: Character will take you the extra mile. During this road trip, I realized that the power of good character can open doors, create connections and make every mile more meaningful.  

5️⃣ Lesson #5: Don’t count the cost or check the clock too often. Sometimes, the best memories are made when we let go of time constraints and financial worries and simply enjoy the journey.  

6️⃣ Lesson #6: Pace yourself. Life is not a sprint, but rather a long-distance race. Take breaks, enjoy the rest stops and find balance to ensure you can keep going.  

7️⃣ Lesson #7: Check your rearview mirror. Remember to reflect on the past and learn from your experiences, but always keep your focus on the road ahead.  

8️⃣ Lesson #8: Stay on the offense. Life’s challenges may try to slow you down, but maintaining a proactive mindset will help you overcome any obstacles that come your way.  

9️⃣ Lesson #9: Be true to yourself. Along this road trip, I learned the importance of staying authentic and embracing who I am. Stay true to your values, dreams and passions.  

🔟 Lesson #10: Understand the assignment. Life presents us with different tasks and opportunities. Take the time to understand the purpose and meaning behind each one and approach them with intention and clarity.  

Overall, this road trip has been an unforgettable experience that has expanded my horizons, tested my limits and reaffirmed the beauty of life’s journeys.  

Remember that every road trip – whether physical or metaphorical – teaches us valuable lessons. Embrace the twists and turns, cherish the moments and enjoy the ride.

Safe travels, my friends! 


Monesha Jemia Carter widely known as MJ – is a multifaceted professional with a diverse background in politics, journalism, education and communications strategy. She has 20 years of experience in media where she honed her skills as a journalist, storyteller and news anchor. A native Californian, MJ currently lives in the San Francisco Bay Area.


Published: 6/26/23